Kahlil Gibran writes in “the Prophet”:
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup, but drink not from one cup.
(Couples each fill a glass with wine)
Fill each other’s cup but drink from your own.
Let this symbolize your promise to each other to be yourselves to the fullest and at the same time to honor the unity you share as husband and wife and to cherish the gifts of love and nurturing each gives the other.
I invite you now to drink to one another . . . Let this drinking of wine also remind you that what matters most in life is the spirit, not the letter; the wine, not the cup.