How to write a Wedding Speech – A Guide for your Guest Speakers
Prior to 2020, I rarely attended the part of the wedding where speeches are given. However, this has changed as couple’s have started opting for the idea of giving speeches right after the ceremony while guests are already seated where the ceremony has taken place. In fact, the only words of wisdom I would give to couples prior to this shift (and even now!) would be that they consider what goes into the ceremony and their vows, so the same messages are not overlapping with speeches that would be given during the reception.
One thing is for certain, it’s one of the least discussed and organised part of the wedding planning process. So, to help pull a guideline together of tips and tricks, I’ve consulted David Leonhardt, The Happy Guy: a freelance writer in Ontario, to offer some advice that couples can impart on those they task with speaking at their wedding:
Your Guest Speakers
#1. Who are you? As a general rule, start by introducing yourself, and explain your relationship to the person you are giving a toast for, while keeping in mind it should be about them more than about you. You might start with some humour, but try to get right into positioning the couple: clever, shy, prankster, generous, etc.
#2. Who are you speaking to? A lot depends on the audience. There may be grandparents in the room, perhaps some young impressionable children, or even guests with sensitive religious and pollical view, so, throwing around crude language to try to be funny or to overcome nervousness is one of the worst things you can do.
#3. Be Original. Repeating corny, worn-out jokes makes the speaker appear impersonal on a very personal occasion. Guests have likely been to other weddings and have already heard everything you will have found on Google. Ideally you want to poke fun or tease the couple, but all in a very good-natured way – like a roast.
Leonhardt says that anecdotes are the key to a strong wedding speech, even for the parents. Telling stories that reveal something about the couple’s character is great meat for the speech. Stories about their journey leading up to the wedding, especially how they met, are always crowd-pleasers.
#4. Entertain. Share